Wednesday, September 06, 2006

Shhh...

Secrets. We thrive on them. Nothing makes us lonelier than our closely guarded ones. Sometimes there’s more fear than delight in them. But the sinful pleasures of a secret are rather delectable. So we all have some to give us company in our various moods.

As kids, the excitement of sharing the silliest of secrets far superceded our wisdom to lock it up in the chest and lose the key. The Secret Seven series added gallons of fuel to the untamable fire. And we used to have our “secret” meetings in attics or on terrace tops, which sometimes entailed dangerous trekking. But our fluttering hearts then knew no fear. The “secret” plans hatched for no intimidating purpose, were rarely ever implemented, because it was the process that mattered, not the outcome.

In our adolescence, the secrets became a tad graver as we learnt to distinguish between the silly and not so silly things in life. Accordingly, we chose to share or not to share them with our buddies. Of course, the “best friend” knew of them all. Secrets were usually about the dudes we were eyeing, or secretly wished to date (Of course I didn’t know a thing about it then!) and such like. The first boyfriend was a well-guarded secret from parents. The clandestine meetings held, romantic billets exchanged and sundry phoney-calls were secrets only close buddies knew of.

As social dynamics change and age catches up with us, I realize we have more secrets to keep rather than to tell or share. Some our own, some shared with us for safekeeping.

Within a given social circle again, there are grades of secrecy. Some are family secrets, best kept away from prying neighbours and snoopy extended family members; a slip of tongue and you’ve had it. There are other secrets that are shared for the sole purpose of it spreading like wild fire which n. no of fire engines cannot douse. (To hell with the world!)


Then of course, there are those that must necessarily be kept from the spouse. And please don’t jump at me with lectures on honesty in relationships and whathaveyou. Go, Look into any man's heart you please, and you will always find, in every one, at least one black spot which he has to keep concealed- Henrik Ibsen. You do ogle at a goodlooking hulk or a hot chick when travelling, walking, jogging or at the gym and now you even have your virtual toyboys/sugar daddies (thanks Lali). At times, for a fleeting moment, certain sinful desires do flit across your mind. It’s only human. You don’t have to go and talk about it. Some things are best not told to the significant other. Hence, they too qualify as “secrets”. I’m only promoting peace, if you get my drift. If you have to share it, come tell me, you'll feel far lighter;)

Personally, I’m the most generous person on earth and a good samaritan. Therefore, I believe in sharing my wealth, be it intangible stuff like information or tangible goods such as my money, rather than keeping them. Besides, as the great Mr Shaw said, The only secrets are the secrets that keep themselves. So why to take tension only?

16 comments:

Rimi said...

Re. keeping it quiet from the spouse, who was it that said "Marriage is no candour. Marriage is tact, marriage is diplomacy"? ;-)

I agree heartily, btw.

Priya said...

Rimi: Sweety, you know too much already! Now to practise it well;)

M (tread softly upon) said...

So what secrets are we referring to here? The one that sparked this post ;)

Urmea said...

Ahhhh the precioussss secretsss. You keep mine and I'll keep yours, hmmmmmmm :)

But why are you keeping your silly picture a secret, eh?

Priya said...

M: Let's just be happy, since it sparked a post, shall we;)
U: Haven't we been doing it for too long already, my safe deposit vault?:P

The Marauder's Map said...

Yes the picture the picture. We want picture.

The Marauder's Map said...

'Therefore, I believe in sharing my wealth, be it intangible stuff like information...' Yeah, so what about the intangible stuff such as the information in the silly picture?

Lalita Mukherjea said...

What a lovely post, darling. We must chat oftener if it sparks posts from you.

Priya said...

MM: Get lost!
Lali: Thanks muchly.:D Yes, please, I'd love to talk to you more often.

hutumthumo said...

buDro austrian psychoanalyst-ta ekbaar bolechilo:

"He that has eyes to see and ears to hear may convince himself that no mortal can keep a secret. If his lips are silent, he chatters with his fingertips; betrayal oozes out of him at every pore."

blogger-der uddeshhye kina ke jaane.

Bonatellis said...

if u are trying to romanticise secrets, u should start singing -

hum jisse gunguna nahin sakte
waqt ne aisa geet kyun gaya ...

ahem ahem !!

Teleute said...

accha, i read your blog on Google Reader. and for some reason, it picked TODAY to show me your Memoirs of a Lifetime post. I'm about a month too late to comment. GAH.

Vikas said...

hmmm...so secrets are revealed here.Thats good.
Well priya i would like to share my secrets..Here is the clue...
My secrets are around you.Find it if u can

Priya said...

Tootsiee: Iye maane most dhonyo. Better late than...u know. Especially if you want another treat;)
Vikas: I'm flattered, young man.

Vikas said...

ur welcome priya :)

Perspective Inc. said...

loved the post..